No One is Going to Do It For You 58/84

Losing weight is hard! We all know this by now, it's no secret. Sure gaining muscle can be hard too depending on who you are but it's different. Losing fat means you need to be hungry and that's uncomfortable, plus you have to eat salads and they're gross. But in all seriousness it really is a tough job, if it weren't then everyone would be skinny right? But there are a few things that you really need to understand that can make the process so much easier for you. These fall more on the mental side of things, which in most cases can be much more important. Once you really embrace these, it liberates you and allows you to do what you need to do to see results.

1. Realize that you are in 100% control.

This is your body and your life, no one can make you do anything that you truly don't want to. This can be magical for the fitness world because it allows you to realize that you control everything, and that gives you all of the power. If you don't want to eat something then don't eat it, no one can make you. If you want to go to the gym then go! No one has the right to stop you. Once you embrace this, and stop letting other people try to dictate what you do, you will hit your goals so much faster. Have that hard conversation with someone if you don't feel like they're helping you the way they should, it will be worth it in the end.

2. Start taking 100% responsibility.

This is similar but also the opposite. If you're not taking full responsibility for everything, the losses and the triumphs, then you need to start and see what a difference it can make. If you keep trying to pass the blame to other people then you're never going to get as far as you could. You ate bad because your friends wanted to go out to eat? It's totally fine to go with but did they put the food in your mouth? Of course not, you chose to do it and you need to take responsibility if you want to be truly successful. But, do you know what the great thing about this is? It still means you have all the control. Since you're taking responsibility, you don't to the rely on anyone else (not that that's bad) and can allow yourself to reach your full potential.

Here's the bottom line on these two; it's up to you and no one else. No one will do it for you and no one can stop you. You have to put in the work and you have to make the sacrifices. But you also can't blame other people when things aren't going the best. There will be hard times and when you are able to embrace these two things then it will help you get through them even faster!  Hopefully this didn't come off too harsh, I've never been that kind of trainer and I don't ever expect to be, but sometimes saying the right thing at the right time may be exactly what someone reading this needs to hear!